If nothing else, hopefully writing it down gets some of it out of you.
Talking about it to people helps me get through mine or at least just see what I am experiencing. Often speaking the words aloud (trying to explain it) helps me understand it.
I have social anxiety, yet know I love talking to people. I fear going places that are unfamiliar, yet love being the center of attention. I cherish having alone time, yet hate being lonely.
I also get what you call “irritability and anger”, I’ve dubbed mine “irrational frustration.” My mind knows there’s logically no reason to get that upset or worked up about something, but in the moment, I can’t control it. I have come a long way with mine and have found ways to diffuse myself or literally stop and take a moment to be calmer, release whatever pressure I’m fighting/creating for myself and, quite frankly, just cut myself some slack.
Thanks for sharing and “opening the floor.” I hope (KNOW) many will respond, highlight in agreement or clap in mutual recognition for what you’re feeling. Yeah, you know you’re not alone. Writers are fonts for anxiety. Luckily we can dip our pens in and use it to our advantage.